Mental Self-Sabotage
8 Mental Habits That Will Make You Miserable
As hard as it might be to accept, the world can’t make you miserable. Only you can do that. Your relationships, bank account, physical body and happiness are all a result of your daily habits. It's not easy to be miserable, unless you consistently do things to create misery.
Fortunately, you can identify and change the habits that are making you unhappy.
Avoid these self-sabotaging habits and create happiness, instead:
1. Making assumptions. It's too easy to assume you already know something you don't. Assumptions destroy relationships and prevent you from taking action. Why assume you won't get that great job? Go after it with everything you've got and prove it to yourself. Get all the information you need and do your best. Remember, assumptions are frequently wrong.
2. Seeking approval from others. No matter what you do, there’s going to be someone with something to say about it (good or bad). Get to know yourself well enough to trust you know what’s best for you. Believe in the choices you make and the actions you take.
* It doesn't matter if your neighbors, in-laws, or your mom approve. Living to make others happy only leads to unhappiness.
3. Comparing yourself to others. There's always someone with a nicer car, a more attractive spouse, a better body, or a bigger paycheck. Only compare yourself to yourself. If you're making progress overtime, you're winning! If you're losing ground, that's a sign you made need to reset and make a few adjustments.
4. Procrastination. Time is the great equalizer. You might not have been born into a wealthy family, possess a 150 IQ, or look like a super model. But everyone has 24 hours available each day. How you use that time determines your outcomes. Wasting time creates stress and drama that no one needs. If you procrastinate frequently, you’re settling for less than you’re capable of having.
5. Indecisiveness. Indecisiveness is the ultimate form of procrastination. Choosing nothing is making a choice. It's a choice to remain stuck and allow life to pass you by. If you're stuck between a couple of options, just choose. One choice will prove to be as good as another.
* If you've done the work to narrow your options, the worst remaining option is much better than failing to make a choice.
6. Only being satisfied with perfection. When you're a perfectionist, nothing is ever good enough. It's the perfect recipe for misery. Give yourself plenty of options for happiness. The need for perfection also creates indecisiveness and leads to procrastination. Determine how well something needs to be done and make it happen.
7. Underestimating yourself. After a negative outcome, it's easy to believe you're less capable than you really are. The natural result is the lowering of your expectations in the future. When you expect less of yourself, you live a life that's less than it could be. You jeopardize the fulfillment that comes from living your absolute very BEST life!
* Focus on your past successes and remind yourself of how capable you can be. Learning to walk and talk are more challenging than anything else you'll ever accomplish. The hard part is over ;)
8. Beating yourself up. Mistakes are part of being human. Learn and grow from them, apply the information you've gained. How would your life be if you never made the same mistake twice? You might think you deserved to be punished, but how is that helpful?
There's good news if you're unhappy. Yes, you can blame yourself, but that also means that you can fix it! Poor mental habits lead to misery. A few simple changes can positively affect your happiness and mental health. Determine how your mental habits are impacting your mood and lifestyle success. Make the necessary changes and enjoy a higher level of happiness.
*The 21/90 Lifestyle Success Academy is a perfect resource for breaking bad habits and cultivating healthy ones. You get the support and community that offers accountability and helps you grow the consistency necessary to successfully maintain and sustain a healthy, happier lifestyle. Check here for the next available enrollment dates.
